This is an interesting topic. You never actually think about how you’ll approach your ladies until it’s actually time to do so. I’ve always known whom some of the ladies were that would stand by my side. I had some special additions, but the selection has always pretty much been locked in. It was just a challenge thinking of how to ask them. Do you just bring it up casually in conversation? Blurt out the question the moment you see them? I went with “make them a card with a poem I wrote myself and include a guidebook with it” option.