Before I jump into anything wedding related, I realize I have to say “Thanks!” to everyone who’s been reading the blog. I don’t know why, but this week brought to my attention how many of our friends and family are following along on my posts as I share a little bit here and there about our plans and my opinions. It makes me very excited to know people ARE reading it, but at the same time I’m over here hoping I haven’t offended anyone yet! ^^;
Either way, thanks for reading along! It makes my weekly posts all the more fun to brainstorm!
Now, I’d like to say I’m not a super-over the top, it must be done by the book kind of gal. And honestly, when it comes to your wedding, it’s YOUR wedding and you have to do things by who you are and what you want.
But I think there’s a big difference between what you want and what you should do.
I’m talking about etiquette. You do not need to be a master in the course. Honestly, most of it boils down to common sense. But often times I hear or see things other brides do and I have a reaction very much similar to Gizelle’s above.
So today, I’m going to tell you what you really shouldn’t do when it comes to proper etiquette of weddings. And these are my beliefs. You can do it your way, but I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be the only person in the world whom would cringe at these fo-pahs. But then again, I’ve been wrong before!
• Send a Save-the-Date with no plans of following an invitation.
Ok, maybe a silly one, but there is NO way your guests can get all the information they will need to have to properly plan from a save-the-date. And no. Telling guests to go to your website is not efficient. It’s hard to believe, but what about the guests whom either don’t have a computer or don’t know how to use one? The generation of people getting married have not lost the generations in their families that have never touched a keyboard before. Not only that, but that people need to go online to actually have access to the information? Maybe all your guests have computers, but not everyone has a smartphone and they’re not going to bookmark your info or jot it down in a safe place. It’s just inconsiderate. Or what if you have some family members whom don’t speak/read the language on your website?
Cutting costs of invitations is not a good way to go. If you want to cut costs on the stationary, don’t buy Save-the-Dates. I can tell you that I received a save-the-date to a wedding and there are no plans to mail an invitation. Which is very much of a hassle and making me DEEPLY contemplate not attending. Because it’s a hassle.
• Not buying favors because you’re already paying $$$ for the guests to attend the wedding.
You know what? Look into the history of wedding favors. If you don’t want to do that, check out my post talking about the traditional wedding favor. Favors can be really really cheap and don’t have to be fancy. I agree when one bride I talked to mentioned how most favors end up getting thrown away. Yes, that’s true. But I don’t think that means it’s okay not to have a little favor for your guests to take away. It’s your way of saying “thank you for coming!” if you don’t get the chance to say so in person.
As for the fact that you’re already spending money on them for their seat, you know what, they’re having to pay to go to your wedding too. And your guests should NEVER know how much you’re spending on them. It’s not their business to know and you shouldn’t count that as sufficient thanks for them attending.
So there are my thoughts. Or maybe these modern budget-saving brides just really irritate me. You pick.
What was your favorite favor you’ve ever received from a wedding?